I have no place for snarky people in my life.
Friday, May 29, 2009
I have no place for snarky people in my life.
Tuesday, May 26, 2009
Tonight I will be attending the memorial service for a long lost friend of mine who died suddenly last week at the age of 38 from a massive heart attack. When I read his obituary on Sunday a bunch of emotions raced through me. I almost didn’t recognize his picture. He looked different.
I couldn’t believe I hadn’t seen him in five years. We just lost touch. There’s no easy explanation for why we hadn’t seen each other…no fight, no ill words. I last spoke with him on the phone in March of this year when he was calling to tell me he wouldn’t be attending my St. Patty’s Day party because he had to go out of town for a death in the family. But he assured me this summer we would all get together and rekindle our lost friendships (there was a gaggle of us). I couldn’t have been more excited.
I’m not sure what to say to his wife tonight. I haven’t seen her in the same amount of time. His son (technically step son, but he raised that young man) is now a teenager. What will I say to him?
George was always rough around the edges, soft in the middle. He was a programmer, a base guitarist, a father, a son, a husband, a friend. I grew to like George when we worked together over 10 years ago in the Finance Department of a local hospital. He spent time teaching me and others and he never got upset if you asked him the same question 500 times. He made you laugh and always we would throw things over the cubicle walls to each other.
We also became friends outside of work and often times we would get together with our families for cookouts, parties, happy hours, 4th of July events, you name it.
I miss him even more knowing I’ll never get the chance to tell him the impact he made on my life.
I’ve learned that life is too short. Tomorrow may never come.
God Bless you George
Thursday, May 21, 2009
If it's not one thing, then it's something else.
I took two cameras with me on vacation. My Nikon D40 which was used for more of the artsy vacation-y photos I wanted to take, the other was my bar-cam as I affectionately refer to her.
I have my Nikon cable and was able to download my pictures, but low and behold someone snuck into my house and stole my bar-cam cable. I'm not capable of losing anything. My home is far to organized. However the more I think about it; have I organized myself out of my home?
So if you see my cable, give me a shout out. Until then, all Mexico pictures are being held hostage. However, let me tease you with this, there are photos of:
- LW passed out with fries hanging out of his mouth
- Boob pictures of me because clearly I was too fat for a certain dress
- Drunken pool pictures with my new friends
- Shocked faces at dinner one night because LW was shoving the camera in our faces
- Senior Frogs picture - 'nuff said there
Oh and did I mention, I got hushed by the hotel staff one night stumbling in from Senior Frogs? Not me!!
Until next time......
Sunday, May 17, 2009
I am so glad to be back home.
I'll post my story later as the trip was full of adventure.
But I'll tell you:
I'm not engaged.
I got sick from the water.
I'm happy to live in America...so appreciative.
The beach was beautiful even though I spent most of my time at the pool.
Off to relax before I head back to work tomorrow. UGH
Friday, May 8, 2009
My Mother’s Day post is a couple of days early this year. I’ll be in Cancun on Mother’s Day so I won’t have any free time, or a computer handy to post.
This year marks the 2nd Mother’s Day I have spent without my Mom. My year of “firsts” is over and I’m well into the second year without her. I have to say that Mother’s Day is by far the hardest holiday without her.
There are two Mother’s Days that I felt were the most special with my Mom. Ironically it would be the last two that I spent with her.
Mother’s Day 2006 – I graduated college. My Mom said I couldn’t have given her a better gift. I spent 15 years in college and to graduate on Mother’s Day was special. I am beyond grateful that she was able to witness such an important event in my life. When all else was going wrong that year (I got separated from my husband, I would later be divorced), graduating with my family there to witness was to best feeling in the world.
Mother’s Day 2007 – This was an odd year for my family. Most times we would get together as a family at my Mom’s and just visit and watch her open presents, etc. But this particular year everyone did their own thing. Being that I was single I didn’t have to squeeze in seeing a MIL and my own Mother into one day. It was a quiet, sunny day. I picked my Mom up at her apartment and took her to Chammps for lunch. She had never been there and my Mom and I had this thing where I would take her somewhere new to eat once a month (she loved it!). We talked and laughed and that’s when I presented her with an airline ticket to Boston for a long weekend (after lunch I would take her to pick out flower hanging baskets for her yard). She was so excited. Sadly we would never get to take that trip. The trip was scheduled for August and I slacked on preparing everything so I had to push back the date. By the time we were to reschedule, she was diagnosed with cancer and died shortly there after. It saddens me that we never got that time together.
So then I got to thinking, my friend Simi’s Mom asked her to put together a list of things about her dad (sadly Simi lost her Father last year). I liked that idea and thought I would pull my own small list together.
Some things about my Mom:
- I’ll never forget our shopping trip to Kohl’s to get her clothes for her cruise. My sister took her on her first cruise ever in 2006. To this day whenever I go in Kohl’s I see my Mom trying on clothes!
- She loved to garden and she passed that love on to me. However, give me a flower and I’ll kill it! She was always so good at growing flowers.
- She believed in me, even when I didn’t believe in myself.
- The last time she drove a car she drove it down the wrong side of the freeway. I look back and laugh but at the age of 5 it wasn’t so funny!
- She was a life guard at the pool. BEST. GIG. EVER. We lived at the pool those summers.
- She never judged anyone. She accepted me with anyone no matter the color of their skin, religion or beliefs. As long as I was happy, she was happy.
- She always gave gifts (even if they were small or homemade – she made the best homemade bread) and wrote thank you cards. I strive to be that good!
- The random things that use to spew out of her mouth were so darn funny. My Mom did not hold anything in. Sometimes I’d have to tell her to pipe it down, especially in the hospital.
This is just a small list of things about my Mom. I could go on and on as I’m sure many of you could about your own Mom’s.
I’ll leave you with this: Three weeks before my Mom died we were sitting in her apartment. I was cleaning her apartment to get ready for Hospice. She was having a 'good' day. She was sitting in her recliner and my brother was on the couch. I found this keychain where you could record people’s voices. I asked my Mom if I could have it and asked her to say something in to it. Do you know what that little shit said? “If you want to do it right. Do it like Danica.” She was always always always complementing me on my clean house or how perfect I had to have everything. To this day I pull out that key chain and I cry and laugh all at the same time. I remember the three of us sitting there laughing until our sides hurt! That’s one memory that will never fade.
Happy Mother’s Day – may you all enjoy a beautiful day with your family. Remember to squeeze your Mom’s tightly and tell them you love them. And if your Mom is no longer with you, I feel your pain and send you hugs.
I'll be back in a week. Enjoy!
Wednesday, May 6, 2009
One year ago today LW and I met at a lunch that was set up by my friend Dee. So LW and I wouldn’t be scared, Dee and her husband (he works in the next building over) met us for lunch at the Frog, Bear, Wild Boar Bar. I remember walking to the restaurant with Dee, nervous, scared half out of my mind. LW didn’t know who I was…he didn’t know what I looked like. He only knew I was blonde and that we worked on the same floor for a couple of years. Still, he couldn’t place me without seeing me.
Dee, her husband and I were seated maybe 10 minutes before LW came walking through the door (he was running late from a meeting). When LW walked through the door, he had the biggest smile on his face. I think at that moment he was finally able to place who I was. Lunch obviously turned out fantastic because a year later we are going to lunch at the same restaurant. This time I won’t be so nervous.
Many don’t know how I tracked LW down. About three years ago when I was going through my divorce I noticed him in the hallways of my floor. He would walk past my cubicle to get to the elevator or even to go to the bathroom. I would eye him, but I was not in a state to introduce myself as I was just divorced and going through a nasty break up with the first man I dated during and after my divorce (so not a good idea to date during a divorce or too soon after a divorce). I digress…
A few months later LW moved off of my floor, never to be seen again...or so I thought! I later found out he moved into a different building, and wouldn’t you know it, a few months later I was moving to the same building he was in….different floors. I would catch him on the elevator every now and again, but still never had the nerve to ask him out.
Then a few months later (notice a trend here?) I find out he works directly with my friend Dee. Who knew!!! I asked her if she knew him….she said yes….I asked her if she could get the scoop…is he single, is he looking, etc. She got the scoop, set up the lunch, and today we are one year into our beautiful relationship.
It’s funny when we see Dee now, because she did an amazing thing and we always let her know how appreciative we are of her. She’s like a Mom to me, so if she approves of LW, I know that my Mom would too.
Tuesday, May 5, 2009
Shew, I made it to Tuesday. Five days and counting until Mexico. WOOT WOOT
This week I am thankful for:
- Money to shop. I bought some kick ass outfits for vacation.
- Milk. I love any kind of cereal in the morning. I think because when I get done eating it, it's a treat to drink the milk.
- Getting recognized. At work yesterday they recognized those of us who put in the long hours during the PeopleSoft upgrade. I'm thankful my company apprciated my hardwork.
- Chocolate. It makes everything A-OK.
- My cell phone and the ability to get email on it. Without it, I would be disconnected from the world. What ever will I do in Mexico without my phone? LW says I'm not allowed to be on it! HA
- My friends. Love to you all. You make life so much more fun!
Happy Tuesday friends!
Monday, May 4, 2009
By this time next week I will be laying on the beach, drink in hand, sunning everything sunable in Mexico! I.CAN.NOT.WAIT.
People keep asking us not to go. We are to the point where we aren't talking about it much anymore (talking and blogging, not the same thing, right?). We are excited to go and won't let any amount of the H1N1 virus keep us away. Infact I heard on CNN this morning that they said Wisconsin had a case of the H1N1 virus two years ago! So they are now saying that while this round did start in Mexico, it was already in the U.S. well before.
I'm not sure why all the fuss though. More people die of the flu every year than they have died from the H1N1 flu recently, so I feel safe. I feel like I am adult enough to know when and how often wash my hands...I know when I shouldn't be around people...I know what to do. The question is...will I be in a state to care (read I may be drunk! HA!)?
At any rate we are both looking forward to time alone and time to reflect on our first year together. We are both in awe of how wonderful this relationship has turned out. Both of us have been burned. Both of us have survived. And both of us will be together for a very long time.
Wednesday marks the one year anniversary of the first time we met face to face (I'd see him in the hallway but would never talk to him). We had lunch with a good friend of mine and her husband. This Wednesday we will be going back to the same place we had lunch at one year ago.
Life is good. I'm in love, I'm happy and I'm looking forward to a wonderful future.
Friday, May 1, 2009
Have a super Friday my friends! I’m looking forward to some family time with LW and Kassidy. It’s been awhile since the three of us have been together.
Kassidy was away in April on Spring Break with friends and most of the weekends LW was suppose to have Kass, he was away at basketball camp, so the two of them have been having dinner in the evenings to get caught up, and of course those evenings they met, I have had appointments.
We have some activities with friends planned this weekend. We’re going to introduce Kassidy to the neighbor kids, since this summer her and LW will be moving in….AND I CAN’T WAIT.
On a side note, I’m painting Kassidy’s room a light purple color and then I’m gonna glam it up. I’ll be sure to post pictures when the room is complete. I’m going to surprise her too! She’s told me in the past that she has always wanted a purple room, so it will be fun to catch the surprise in her eyes when she sees her new room at my house. I swear I’m all giddy about it!!!
Happy Weekend! Be safe and enjoy it wherever you are!